A few days back, while explaining a ‘Business Studies’ lesson to my cousin, I learned a life lesson myself. I was explaining to her what does the term ‘Outsourcing’ means in a business and how does it work. Outsourcing is a common practice where a company hires an outside party to perform certain services or jobs to improve their efficiency and reduce costs. One of the basic principles is that they rarely hire an outside party to perform a business’s core or primary function.
I could not help but think how this outsourcing is also attached to our emotions, thoughts, and feelings. Humans are social creatures and we need strong support to fulfil our social, economic, and psychological needs. These covid times have taught us the importance of the strength our family and friends can give us, even if it’s from the other side of the screens. But the other most important lesson we have realized is that the quality of our life is largely determined by the quality of relationship that we share with ourselves.
Just how a business performs its core function by itself and this core function determines its level of success, we humans also need to nourish our equation with our body, mind, and soul. If we don’t do that, our other relationships will never grow in their full glory. Something will always be missing and no matter how far we wander away, we will never be able to find the missing piece. (This reminds me of the plot of Imtiaz Ali films, but I can’t help with giving filmy references😉)
Putting pressure on others to process our emotions is a perfect recipe for disaster. They can help and support us wholeheartedly but they can’t do the processing part because such out-of-the-world technology is yet to be invented. The concept of being gentle to our thoughts and feelings is very alien to us. The moment we are forced to be alone with them is the moment they start haunting us. In such a situation, the mind becomes a battleground and we often end up losing.
We all know that in this journey of life, we spend most of our time with ourselves, then why not try to be friends with the constant companion, i.e., ourselves. Being friends does not mean that it will always be a smooth ride, instead, it means that we will be able to travel on the bumpy road better.
Today the conversations around self-love, self-care, and self-acceptance are happening more than ever. And if we treat them not only as Social Media concepts, then they can transform our lives. These are not merely fancy words limited to our Instagram lives but they should be a way of living our real lives. We all know that being loving, kind, and empathetic to each other works like magic, we all have experienced that in our lives. Just a sweet good morning or a random act of kindness from a stranger holds the power to transform a bad day into a hopeful day, then just imagine what being loving and kind to ourselves can do. And it will not only transform our own lives but also every life that we come in contact with.
We, humans, are a complete puzzle in ourselves and yet at the same time a very tiny piece in the puzzle of this Universe. We all will always need to come together and be there for each other to complete the puzzle of the Universe. But what you are being asked by the Universe is to take care of your part, and when the other parts will come together, a marvel will occur!
You will listen to the Universe, won’t you?